The Big Bang – How the Orgasm Evolved
Everyone knows that the only way to keep the species going, outside of the lab, is sex. But why is it built to feel good? Orgasm (male or female) has nothing to do with sperm-meeting-egg, and although there are plenty of theories on why it exists, the truth is that no-one really knows how it came about (no pun intended).

We don’t even really know if we are the only species on the planet that experiences it – although there is plenty of evidence to suggest that our closest primate relatives also have orgasms, or at least really like the sex act. Having sex for fun (instead of just reproduction) is also common in dolphins, pigs, and probably cats.
This is just speculation though. An orgasm is hard to identify in another species – or even in our own. After all, how many people really know when their partner is faking it. Knowing if someone has had one often comes down to taking their word for it – and its hard to get the nod from a Bonobo ape, a lab rat, or a dolphin.
The weird thing is that most scientists have focused on finding out the reasons for the female orgasm, instead of the human orgasm. There are two things wrong with this: The first is the assumption that a man needs to orgasm to ejaculate. Anyone who has studied Tantra (and Tantric sex) knows that they are different processes – and that a man can climax repeatedly before ejaculating. Multiple orgasms, anyone? The second is a bit political: Why would we assume that pleasure is a biological necessity for a man and not for a woman, who (reproductively speaking) only needs to ‘lie back and catch sperm’ in order to become pregnant?
That second problem actually turns out to be scientifically inaccurate too: When a woman orgasms, the mouth of her cervix dips and lifts. This looks a bit like a bird drinking water. Yep, her cervix is Up-Sucking (that really is the scientific name for it) to pull sperm into the uterus and fallopian tubes. This increases the rate of fertilisation by up to 30%. In other words, women who orgasm are better breeders.
If the orgasm is, as some people suggest, Natures Happy Accident, it makes sense that it caught on fast. If Darwin was right with the whole Survival of the Fittest thing, then members of a species who are able to experience orgasm were probably looking for a whole lot more sex than their non-climaxing peers. And they were probably doing it with a lot more partners.
Humans may frown on promiscuity, but Mother Nature loves it. By mating with multiple partners, there is a stronger chance of more babies being born, that have a wide genetic diversity, which gives a species its best chance of survival.
In other words, the orgasm may be nature’s way of encouraging us to have more sex. Considering that orgasm can cure insomnia, make you look younger, increase your fertility and make you look younger, it could also be called the Fountain of Youth. And that pun is intended!
Good sex often needs a little privacy, and perhaps some romance. Take your partner away somewhere different for a few days – renting apartments in Seville is the perfect way to show them you care, and get them alone for some quality time.















